When I got my first writing gig for a tiny local newspaper with a circulation of 2.3 people, one of the veteran writers on staff told me, “Just remember, haters are gon’ hate.”
Then he added, “So whatever you do, don’t read the negative mail.”
It was sound wisdom. The only problem with this advice is that negative mail looks just like positive mail before you open it. How do you tell the two apart? At first glance, there is no way to differentiate between a friend and a hater by looking at an envelope or an email.
After all, nobody writes in bold letters on the outside of their envelope: THIS IS HATE MAIL. Neither do people fill out the subject line of an email with the words: WARNING, THIS MESSAGE IS GOING TO RUIN YOUR DAY.
So you never know whether a message is going to be positive or negative until you actually open the thing and read a few sentences:
“Dear Sean, I just wanted to take a minute to tell you, from the bottom of my heart, that you are a greasy, disgusting, faux-deep-thinking, chauvinistic pig…”
Thus, my philosophy has always been to ignore negative messages. And mostly, I’ve kept pretty true to this idea. Although I do occasionally respond to unusually ugly correspondence.
Such as the time a guy recently told me to “go to hell.” I wrote to him, saying in all honesty, that I had already visited Hell, Michigan, and frankly, I’d rather spend everlasting eternity in Detroit.
And a few months ago, I received a critical letter from a literature professor from an extremely well-known university with a world-famously bad football team. He told me I was partially responsible for the “dumbing down” of the American literary mind by “writing for likes.”
That hurt.
Still, on the infrequent occasion that I respond to nasty messages publicly, I usually try to keep things lighthearted. I try to be jocular. I try to be myself. I don’t have the luxury of taking myself too seriously. For crying out loud, I write on the internet. This ain’t Hemingway. My IQ is average at best, and my dog has a higher pedigree than I do. And furthermore, I am not even one hundred percent clear on what “jocular” actually means.
So my only defense against the haters is to be moderately funny in my responses. Although, usually, haters don’t care for my cheap attempts at humor.
Here is an actual quote from some negative mail I received this week:
“I don’t like your writing. I find your ridiculous humor to be insensitive and ignorant. Your fake introspection and false empathy embodies all the hackneyed stereotypes about us, Mister Dietrik.”
Two things I’d like to point out about this message: (1) this was an extremely well-written letter, free of grammatical errors, with flawless syntax, and (2) my last name is not spelled with a K.
Even so, the main question that often arises in my mind when I get mail like this is: If someone already knows they don’t like my work, why read it?
Moreover, once this person has invested 5 minutes reading my godawful work, why do they choose to take an additional 20 minutes out of their busy day to write a 1500-word thesis asserting how sincerely and completely they detest it? And why, after writing this marathon treatise, do they spend ANOTHER 20 minutes checking their work for misspellings and typos before sending?
Why not spend that one hour of their life writing a letter to someone they admire and respect? Such as, say, their favorite world dictator?
So if I’m being honest, sometimes negative messages can totally wreck my day. I don’t like admitting this. I’m not saying I’m a wilting violet, I’m more of a regular violet. But also, I’m human. And when someone tells you, flat-out, that you’re an idiot, a tiny part of you can’t seem to forget that negative word.
Their negativity sticks with you. You go to the store and you remember that someone called you an idiot.
You’re pumping gas at the Shell station, and you wonder to yourself whether there are levels of idiocy, and if so, where, specifically, on the International Idiot Scale do you rank?
You walk around in a kind of funk, knowing that someone out there is telling their friends what a complete Knucklehead McSpaz-a-tron you are. Right now, they are probably locating pictures of you online, laughing at your $3 haircut until they pee themselves.
This is why when an unsavory email came in today I felt my hands go clammy and my heart started to beat quicker than normal. I was standing in the grocery store when the message arrived on my phone. I read it and nearly cried when they called me a few names that aren’t worth repeating.
I’ve received some humdingers in my day, but this one was special.
I started to wonder what I’m doing this for, this writing? Why have I given my life to writing a column/blog/stories/whatever-this-is for nearly a decade? Maybe these unhappy people are right about me?
Then it hit me. I know why I do this. I know why I write. I write because, yes, in this indifferent world the haters are indeed gon’ hate. But I believe the same can also be said about us lovers.
Sincerely,
—Mister Dietrik
242 comments
Naomi Smith - April 11, 2022 6:59 am
My mom always said “if you can’t say anything good about someone, don’t say anything at all.” She also said, “there is no accounting for taste.” She had lots of advice for us kids that still holds true today. It is obvious that some people missed out on some good advice.
Sean, just keep on doing what you do. We, the majority of your readers, love your writings. The heathens who have the audacity to make rude statements would not have fared well at my household.
Patricia Wiley - April 12, 2022 2:37 pm
Lovers- Every time you see one of those haters coming through just Remember there are at least 10x lovers for each! We just don’t take the time to say it as often as we should!
Brian - April 11, 2022 7:10 am
I teach at a college prep international school and use your writing as an excellent example of creative voice and authentic tone. I also share your work on the last day of my US History class in an attempt to show my students that there are many wonderful people in ‘Murica living their lives in ways that never gets them into the tragic headlines or featured on a reality show. Count me among the lovers.
Reecie Powell - April 11, 2022 7:41 am
Life is way to short to hate and actually way to short to love, but I love anyway and sleep better for it. Caring on Sean.
Cheri - April 11, 2022 7:49 am
Love it! And you!!!
Imelda (Mel) Bozorgmehr - April 11, 2022 8:10 am
Just read your haters post. I am 86 years old, & haven’t had any haters that I know of. On he other hand, I havent written anything that made anyone weep, with joy or sorrow. I havent written anything that made me look at my fellow humans to realize their bravery under duress, their smile hiding sorrow, their innate wisdom in spite of little formal schooling. So you write on! Every day I save your post to reward myself & make me feel better about the world. I have good people in my extended family from retarded to quite a few geniuses. I find I can learn from all their stories. Maybe I should write about some of those – but I’ll leave it to you because you do it better. Haters must feed on something, otherwise their whole distorted view of the world is shown to be a lie! Write on!
pdjpop - April 11, 2022 11:16 am
Mel, Your wisdom exceeds your years. (Not making fun.) I think God, a diety if you will, would advise Sean much the same.
You are spot on in describing the emotional responses of us normal, everyday people who read, enjoy and appreciate Sean’s perspectives.
I look forward to his life experiences with great anticipation. Mel, you too could add color to our world.
Sean, it’s always, always a choice. What you believe is a choice. Every negative needs 6 positives to erase the last negative. Read Mel’s comment six times but I know Mel is not the only one.
We love your writing and we love you. Get busy, we’re waiting…..
Remember: Inspiration beats perspiration but the balance of the two is genius.
Peggy S Campbell - April 11, 2022 4:26 pm
COuldn’t say it better, Mel. HUZZAH!
Karen - April 14, 2022 2:07 pm
Mel you have such wisdom in your comment, thank you for making sense of the “haters” with ” Haters must feed on something, otherwise their whole distorted view of the world is shown to be a lie!” RIGHT ON you are…Sean, WRITE ON !
Susan H Poole - April 11, 2022 8:30 am
Dearly beloved, will you take this man, Sean Dietrich, to be your favorite writer and lover of people and dogs — to have and to hold from this day forward? And all the people in the land shouted YES & AMEN.
Terry Ransom - April 11, 2022 9:08 am
Mark Twain aka Samuel Clemens or vice versa was not always well received either. Love reading your posts! Terry Ransom, Tyrone, Ga.
Bud McLaughlin - April 11, 2022 9:09 am
I have been a writer/editor for 45 of my 67 years and I have a hard time, still, knowing haters gonna hate. But, obviously, they aren’t winning because I haven’t stopped writing. I start my day reading you and I don’t plan to stop. Keep it up. You are good.
Jimmy Stewart - April 11, 2022 9:30 am
W. R. I. T. E. O. N. ! ! !
Kim - April 11, 2022 9:31 am
I would have a hard time believing a vast majority of your readers aren’t lovers of your work. Normal people just don’t follow or subscribe to things they don’t like, do they?. Surely the naysayers represent only a very small percentage of the comments you receive. I, for one, read your column first thing, after kissing my husband good morning, feeding the 4-legged inhabitants of our house and making my morning shake. (That’s the one big thing we disagree on, Mr. Dietrik. Coffee smells wonderful and tastes awful.) So, from all of us who start our day by reading your column to get our emotions started in the best of ways, please keep doing this writing thing that you do. Those naysayers probably have so much time on their hands because they don’t have any friends. At least that’s what my Mom used to tell me.
Nell - April 11, 2022 9:39 am
Ya ROCK Sean! 👍😎Leave the haters and moo-ve on as we say in Texas.Hey to Jamie.
Eileen Twiddy - April 11, 2022 9:46 am
You take the simple & the obvious & make it real for many of us. I start my day by reading your post. You have great insight into the human spirit. Keep writing!!
"Tree J" - April 11, 2022 10:01 am
You’re awesome!! Sean, I too would rather hang with those who accept & love imperfect me as I am, sometimes up, sometimes down, riding this roller coaster called life. I enjoy every scrap of humor, love & perspective you choose to share. Human me loves your humor, your sensitivity, your humanness. You keep doing you, leaving haters to hate. When they get tired of it, maybe they’ll look in the mirror, see their own ilk, decide to try the “life is a gift, enjoy the present, love one another, everybody is going thru something” scene. I’ll try to be less judgmental too, knowing haters are suffering, stuck in a box of their own creation that’s become a habit they need to break, but until they see it themselves, all we can do is try to be kind, knowing everybody’s is going thru something… 💞✌️
Carol from GA - April 11, 2022 10:01 am
Whattt??!! The Mama Bear came out in me when I read that someone would actually be ugly to you! I start every day with your stories and then share them and discuss them with my friends and family. You are such a breath of fresh air compared to the news and reality! 99.9% NEED you to keep doing exactly what you are doing every day…. making others feel better! My mother would say “Oh honey, they are just jealous”. We love you Sean!
Sal - April 11, 2022 10:04 am
Someone said one time that hate is really fear. So the people that “hate” your work are really fearing that you’ll “get ahead” of them in life. They want to make sure that doesn’t happen so they must write some hate mail to you to bring you down to their level. Keep on ignoring them!!
Connie Allen Schneider - April 11, 2022 10:05 am
Please never quit writing! You make every day a little better for me-either laughing hysterically or feeling sweetly sentimental. Something is definitely wrong with people who don’t get your writing!!
eliz - April 11, 2022 10:10 am
Oh sweetheart, for every one hater you get, stop and read at least 10 of the love letters you get. (It takes 10 positive comments to overwrite 1 negative, according to psychologists. I think that is the ratio.) I’ve never read a comment from a hater in the comments section. People are gonna hate, if not you then someone else. Carry on with sharing what you do. It is loved and valued and so are you!
Russ Davis - April 11, 2022 10:10 am
Keep it up Brother! We read your post every day and love them! I share a lot of them with my friends and a great deal of them are now daily readers too.
Laura W - April 11, 2022 10:22 am
Exactly what I was going to say. I read Sean first thing every morning and very often the post hits me as something a friend will enjoy or needs to hear and I forward it on. They have all thanked me and some have become regular readers as well.
Mary - April 11, 2022 10:17 am
Poor haters. They have to spew their nasty stuff somewhere, so anonymous trolling on the internet makes it easy. But they still have to live with their negative selves. Please don’t make it worth your time thinking about them, except for in your prayers hoping they find some beauty and love to brighten their hearts.
Keep doing you thing, as there are plenty of us who enjoy your way of sharing love. Nothing negative about that.
Keith Hudgins - April 11, 2022 10:20 am
Dear Mr. Deitrik, for every “hater” you have one thousand people who love your writing. I annoyingly forward your essays to various people several times per week. I sent your Aunt Bee essay to an old friend of mine who is a minister in Birmingham who uses Andy references in his sermons. (You should check out his church. There are probably some form of potlucks involved.) I send all your Braves / baseball essays to the biggest Braves fan I know. If it were me, I’d hate the hater messages too, so who am I to say, “just ignore them”? But I’ll do it anyway, Shawn, “Just ignore the haters.”
Ken M. - April 11, 2022 10:26 am
Dear Sean,
I feel sorry for people who send you hate mail and call you names. As if the world needs more hate. Don’t let the small-minded people out there steal your joy. You are a wonderful writer and I look forward to reading your stories, all of them. Press on and keep doing what you do!
John - April 11, 2022 10:29 am
Keep on writing Sean. We who love your work outnumber the haters.
Laura - April 11, 2022 10:33 am
You are a gem! Your writing impacts so many people who need hope, love and humor. Ignore “educators” and those who feel their greatest contribution is grading others. Bless their hearts…
Diana Dowhower - April 11, 2022 10:35 am
Sean,
Hate mail isn’t about you, it’s about the other persons self hate and insecurities….so keep writing. You are the first thing I read every morning, you are a light in the dark of a world gone crazy! Write on Sean, you give us smiles and hope!
Joy Dickinson - April 11, 2022 10:36 am
Hi Sean. I’ve written a public column, and the first time I got a negative remark, my editor said, “wow, you must’ve really gotten to them.” It’s interesting, as you point out, that someone would invest time and energy in a reply about something they claim to care little about. On some level you’ve really spoken to them. But the main thing I want to say that a fine writer and an authentic one, and I’m grateful for your work. it matters.
Joy Dickinson - April 11, 2022 10:41 am
Correcting above comment and early morning fumble: You are a fine writer and an authentic one!
Nancy - April 11, 2022 10:51 am
I have never sent a comment to you, but felt the need to do so today. This just made me mad! Why tear someone down—someone who gives so many of us an uplift in a time where there is so much bad news. The last I heard, this is a free country, where one can choose to unfollow, unfriend, block, scroll on by, etc. Your column is the first thing I read every morning to get my day started. Sometimes I laugh, sometimes I want to cry, but always makes my day better. Haters gonna hate, but all of us who love you are gonna keep on loving. Thanks for just being you, Mr. “Dietrik”
PurpleIris - April 11, 2022 10:57 am
Sean, each morning, you put me in touch with myself. I can judge myself by your words and thoughts.
I think evil people try to prey on you because they are cowards. They can’t face themselves and the evil that lurks within. They can’t stand the fact that you are good and they are not. And another thing that comes to mind… darkness will be brought to the light. They are the darkness, you are the light. Your goodness exposes them for what they truly are.
Georgia E Brooks - April 11, 2022 11:04 am
I love your writing! It takes a special kind of person to take the time to reach and be mean. They must hate themselves and life in general. When you get this kind of mail, find a piece you wrote that you love and remember there are many of us that are following your stories because we love them too!
Martha Nealy - April 11, 2022 1:22 pm
Sean, there is so much love for you out here. I’ve noticed the haters never comment publicly, but cowardly hide behind private mail to you alone. If they dared say anything negative in the public comments about our favorite writer, you can be sure they would be chastised royally by your true fans! Write on! We’ve got your back!
Doug and Kathy loker - April 17, 2022 9:36 pm
Amen. He has had great impact on my life. My quiet quiet husband of 50 years…shares these posts with me. I worked in Radio ad sales for 3 decades…I love to talk, more than that. I love to honor life and my God. I love mine quiet husband. ( yes mine. Mine mine…all mine)…because he feels like Sean. So many feelings. It took decades for mine guy to be comfortable around such feelings. Sean helped him identify himself. I need to be Se an’s ride or die. He is more human than the rest of us.
Dawn M Monday - April 11, 2022 11:05 am
And I’m one of the lovers! You make me laugh and cry and make me have hope in this crazy world. I look forward to your email every morning.
Bob E - April 11, 2022 11:09 am
Shrug it off…
Easy to say – hard to do.
But do it.
Shrug.
Keep up the effective writing.
Jeanette - April 11, 2022 11:14 am
Please keep writing? I was unable to receive your daily email for about a month. I couldn’t figure out what had happened. I was worried about you, thinking you had stopped for some reason. Finally I figured out the problem, and it was me! I had changed a setting on my phone. So now I know what it’s like to do without you in the morning to set the tone of my day. I didn’t like it!
Patricia Collins - April 11, 2022 11:14 am
Sean, it’s true there a bunch of “unhappy campers” in this ole world that hate everything, everybody and anything they touch. Ignore those who try to make it their lives work to destroy the happiness and bliss of others. I read your column daily. Sometimes I see humor, I see some history and sometimes like today, mean people still exist and I have to say, I enjoy that part of my morning when I sit down with my coffee at 5:30am and read your column. Haters are gonna hate, it’s true but rise above them and don’t let them steal your peace on earth. Look to all of us that have a smile on our face ( yes I know you can’t see it) and know that we love reading your writings. Keep up the good work Sean, the lovers of your column still outweigh the haters!!
niobrarariverrat - April 11, 2022 11:15 am
Hater kickback happens a lot to people, like you, who dare to try and make our world a better place. It’s happened to me, as well. After I published my first book last fall I realized that I’m not good at marketing, even though a few friends read it and told me they thought it was good. I haven’t broken even yet, which was my goal, so I started joining writers’ groups and looking for marketing advice. I ‘won’ a free 15-minute consultation with a marketing firm that seemed to be on the up and up. As requested, I sent the consultant a link to my book and some background info. On the appointed day I eagerly answered the phone. I wasn’t looking in the mirror, but I can imagine the look on my face when she told me that first, I will need to write a book that is interesting.
Like Naomi Smith’s mom in a comment above, my mother was a wise woman. She told me this: “You get what you pay for.” My free consultation was worth exactly that. She also told me to “Keep on keeping on.” I will, and I expect you will, too. And BTW, you give us MUCH more than we pay for and I, for one, appreciate you!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and yourself with us.
Mike Pelton - April 11, 2022 11:18 am
Love reading your column EVERY day. About five times each week, I forward your column to friends and family who are going through difficult times or just need a laugh. They send me thank you notes for sharing your columns with them. You probably have no idea how many people are touched and uplifted by your messages – and for that matter, neither do I, but I’m sure it’s a lot. Thanks for writing your column, Mr. Dietrik. 😄
David Grant - April 11, 2022 11:22 am
Hebrews 10:24 consider others and stir up love and good deeds. Sean you just keep on keeping on: your writing is a gift. Keep on keeping on my friend.
Mary Ann B - April 11, 2022 11:28 am
Dear professor hater with impeccable grammar, if there is anything human left in that shriveled up ball of ego and vitriol you call a heart, open it a little and let some joy in! We don’t need more hate in this world; there’s enough of that already. You go, Sean!
Nancy - April 11, 2022 11:34 am
Sean, I start my morning reading what you write and then forward on to two friends who also love you. Look at all the lovely comments people sent trying to cheer you up. You must be doing something right! Keep on making us smile!
Ann - April 11, 2022 11:36 am
I LOVE when you write about the “ haters”… they have to have read a lot of your columns and are so unhappy with themselves they lash out at everyone and everything. Mostly likely their early years were “ perfect and easy” and they haven’t learned how to deal with LIFE! YOU can turn negative to positive..hate to love ( or tolerance) and sadness to finding joy. YOU are so human and remind us of the levels of of life and how we can approach it. These “ haters “… don’t realize they feed your writing ..keep your chin up, “ everything is gonna be alright “
Ann - April 11, 2022 11:38 am
I’m a writer also. I know the pain. I just try to focus on those that love my work. And BTW I love your writing. I bet you get more good emails than bad!!!! And again focus on us that love you. Ann Robbins Phillips.
Kelly Marks - April 11, 2022 11:43 am
I believe Teddy Roosevelt said it best when he said It’s not the critic who counts but the man in the arena!! You lay it all on the line everyday. That requires a bravery that this critic will never have!!
Joy Jacobs - April 11, 2022 11:43 am
I have read lots of what you’ve written and believe me those negative nellies are humorous-less ignoramuses. ❤️
Don Bedell - April 11, 2022 11:45 am
I don’t care what the f…ers say. In My Humble Opinion you are as close to the reincarnation of Lewis Grizzard that we will ever read.
Larry E. Notestine - April 11, 2022 11:46 am
Keep being you, Sean. One of the best parts of my day is being lifted by you. Keep being you.
Kathleen Rugel - April 11, 2022 11:51 am
Sean,
You are the most anticipated part of my daily readings. I read several each morning while the sun comes up and always save yours for last to end on a good note. Your writing is refreshing, genuine, caring, sincere and fun. You make me smile, laugh, cry, and reflect. I truly appreciate your transparency, perspective, attitude, humor and priceless writing.i even like the way you handle haters.
Keep doing what you are doing.
You rock.
Kathleen Rugel
Kathy Browning - April 11, 2022 11:51 am
Sean, in my option you are delightful. You tell the ordinary with wonderful humor and great word pictures. You hold “old fashioned”, moral values, and understand the true meaning of life. Those who have suffered greatly and persevered through it, are more compassionate and loving. You communicate this in your stories, and your heart shines through in your stories. “This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine”. Your heart and spirit shine. Those haters are missing the “valuable’s “ of life. Love, Joy, Peace, patience, kindness, goodness, humility, and self-control. This may not be a grammatically correct, literary comment, but I hope you can hear my heart.
Andrea - April 11, 2022 11:53 am
I love your writing. Each one makes my day. Ignore the haters. We lovers look forward to hearing from you each day.
Patricia - April 11, 2022 12:02 pm
It is amazing that you can take everyday occurrences in life and turn them into inspiring and entertaining stories that make us feel human. You are so important to so many. Keep that talent flowing !!
Chris - April 11, 2022 12:03 pm
My wife recently introduced me to your work, explained how uplifting it was, and how it had helped her through one of the darkest times in her life. She then cajoled me into driving an hour and a half to see you in person in Clayton, NC. For this, I couldn’t be more grateful. I’ve written a lot over the years, mostly to resounding indifference, and will assure you, Sean, that you possess gifts, as both a writer and a human, that border on superpowers. Thank you for what you do, please keep doing it, and remember that a large percentage of what we call “hate” is actually envy.
Paul McCutchen - April 11, 2022 12:03 pm
I used to deal with the public and I can feel your pain. You get used to the “Great Job”, “Good Work” and all the accolades that comes with doing you job in life to the best of your ability. Then one person comes along and can ruin your whole day or week by complaining about the job you do because they don’t have to look at you face to face. You are doing a great job and I start my day with your column every morning. Keep it up.
peggy hayes - April 11, 2022 12:10 pm
Dear Sean,
Every morning, I take some time out for what I like to call my “quiet time.” It consists of reading from the Bible, a book of inspirational quotes, a Bible study book of some sort, and your blog posts. I read these things because I want to be a better person. Please don’t let the haters make you feel bad. They’re just jealous that it’s you instead of them that people read, because based on what they obviously spend their time writing, they inspire no one.
Tommy Artmann - April 11, 2022 12:20 pm
I truly like and enjoy your writing!
Lynn M Babcock - April 11, 2022 12:22 pm
Ask me! I know why you write. You write because you have to. Because the wonderful way you view the world begins to form a small foam of delicious words that bubble up and bump against each other finding just the right groupings until they eventually burble into a glorious geyser that sprays warm words of humor and comfort and insight and decency over a chilly, thirsty world. You can’t help it. Your kind-hearted insights bring love and light to most of us, but also expose pain and darkness in some hearts. Hopefully, they will eventually see the light and the Light. Thankful for you!
Vanessa - April 11, 2022 12:22 pm
Sean — I will tell you why you write: Because God gifted you with a unique talent for putting words together in such a way to make me gasp, smile or tear up when I read your article each morning. Then I, and people like me, send a message to friends, “Sean is really good today,” and we cut and paste the genius wording that started our day out right. I, too, was a Lewis Grizzard fan when he was blessing the world with his words. I believe he would be very proud of you. Please keep writing. I don’t want to think of a day when your beautiful and insightful words are not the first I read.
Arlene Bennett - April 11, 2022 12:24 pm
Please keep writing. You are one of the highlights of my day.
Shelton A. - April 11, 2022 12:27 pm
Keep on writing, please! Where else would I get what good news there is in the world? Don’t hate the haters. Ignore them and keep on writing. We love your stories. We make fun of or feel sorry for the haters so you can just keep on writing. God bless and His peace.
Linda Lewis - April 11, 2022 12:27 pm
It’s not you. It’s them. The haters hate everything. So, don’t let them get you down. Please keep on doing your best, if for no other reason than to show them up. I read your column every day. I wouldn’t miss it.
Ann of Mobile - April 11, 2022 12:31 pm
I’m with you, Sean. Us non-haters too often have a rough go dealing with the obsessive, even professional haters who love hating and hammering on folks they can’t convert to their own way of thinking. Besides, your usual cheer and perseverance in the face of obstruction that are revealed in your daily writings do wonders for the rest of us. We love your early-morning, free mini-stories that often have encouragement in abundance. You are a talented writer, entertainer and fine person who loves and ministers to people of all stripes, persuasions and problems, even the obsessive haters. You do it well. Thank you! Oh, and ‘touché’ for your gentle Putdown on the so-called professor’s hate message, Mr. Dietrich. 😏👍
katemedinawritescom - April 11, 2022 12:34 pm
The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not overcome it. -John 1:5 You, dear Sean, are a light in what can be a very dark world. Your writing illuminates every good, decent, hopeful and encouraging thing that humanity has to offer. You gift us all a language and levity in our everyday fumblings. Onward Sean. This world needs your gift.
Jennie - April 11, 2022 12:36 pm
My mother used to tell me, when I’d have a bad day at school, “Your inferiors can’t hurt you, and your superiors won’t.”
Jane Tallent Shoultz - April 11, 2022 12:39 pm
I dare say the “Lovers” outnumber the “Haters”! I look forward to starting my days with you “Shawn”! 😘 I love you!
Jan - April 11, 2022 12:40 pm
Amen to katemedinawritescom. Sean, many times you are the very best part of my day. There are far too many people who love you and rely on your astute and entertaining columns to keep us grounded and show us both the good and occasionally, not so good sides of life. Please do not ever stop these wonderful messages of love and hope which magically appear in my email box each morning. I couldn’t face the day without them!
Angela Hutchinson - April 11, 2022 12:40 pm
Dear Sean: My mother was the one to introduce me to your posts. She and I would laugh (and, sometimes, cry) after reading them. She passed away a couple months ago. It was peaceful, but it was sudden- so it was (and still is) very hard some days to get my mind around it. Nevertheless, your posts are part of what keeps me connected to her. I love reading them! She was a great writer who never published. She absolutely loved the written word and, more specifically, she loved reading yours because she appreciated your talent. Part of what makes you such a great writer is because your heart shows in your words. It’s beautiful, raw, honest– and real. For what it’s worth, from one Southerner to another, I believe love is what makes life worth living… And you are truly good at spreading that in your writing.
Sissy Lingle - April 11, 2022 12:45 pm
Yes, dear Sean, I am sure all of us understand that negative criticism is hurtful, but you have so much more positive feed back I am sure. I would say that many of the haters are jealous that you are obviously loved, or why would you have such a great number of followers! Many would-be writers would LOVE to be able to do what you do. And, dear man, you are loved for your honesty and uplifting columns every day! I know I wouldn’t miss one and have also read all your books!
Weston Toews - April 11, 2022 12:47 pm
I appreciate the way you give us a window into your heart. I just prayed you could feel God’s hug when you need it. I can learn a lot from you and your attitude. Weston Toews, Fleetwood Pa
Susan Swiderski - April 11, 2022 12:54 pm
Remember the old hymn about “brightening the corner “where you are? Well, that’s what you do. You shine a light on our shared humanity and remind us of the joys… and challenges… that can be found all around us in everyday life. Some people would rather lurk in the darkness while slinging insults and fecal matter at the rest of the world, but I believe they’re to be pitied. There’s no reason to put even a tiny bit of credence in their words or to give their opinions any more weight than they deserve. (which is NONE) How sad a person’s life must be for him to hurt another person intentionally with cruel words and insluts. Don’t ever let the haters bring you down, Sean. Just whisper, “Well, bless his little heart”… and move on. You are our lovable Everyman. And what’s more, you’re the kind of Everyman who can make a difference. You touch hearts and sometimes make our eyes leak, and you unite us. What do haters do? Nothing good, I can tell you that. Um, maybe you need to have an assistant to open your mail for you? No need for you to be bothered with the petty meanness of hate mail. You’ve got more important things to do. Like write another column and make us all smile… and cry… together.
Denice - April 11, 2022 12:55 pm
Reading your column every morning is like opening the window to let the fresh air in.
Leigh Amiot - April 11, 2022 12:57 pm
These comments of encouragement are multiple blessings! The unfortunate thing about some folks is if they sniff someone’s Achilles heel, they lunge for that territory. We know you will keep on writing, a writer has no choice. From childhood, I never believed that sticks and stones business. Words and names can and do hurt…and the maddening thing is they most often come from people who are nowhere nearly as accomplished as their target. In their boorish behavior, they don’t want you to notice that.
Imelda (Mel) Bozorgmehr above should take up writing! Loved her comment, so beautifully and impeccably expressed.
Don Watts - April 11, 2022 12:59 pm
Hey Sean,
I haven’t written you for awhile but today’s post compelled me to at least say, “hang in there.” I read you daily and frankly I always admire and appreciate your delivery. You don’t take yourself too serious and coming from another southerner, I both admire and respect your views.
Having read you for a few years now, I feel I know you like a brother. You have let us know that your background hasn’t always been rosy but your optimism is always there in humanity. No “hater” can deny that.
Again, hang in there and shining your light!
Don from Atlanta
Melissa Armstrong - April 11, 2022 1:00 pm
I’m so thankful you don’t let the haters get to you. I love your style of writing and while I’m not a writer, I did score a thirty on my ACT in English 50 years ago. I wrote term papers in college and made A pluses. I look forward to your stories or blogs everyday. They are good for the soul and God uses them to bless me in this world is selfish, self centered haters. I hope to meet you in person one day. In the meantime, keep writing and believe me that for every hater out there, there are at least a hundred lovers.
Melissa Armstrong (my friends call me “Mel”)
A. Folds - April 11, 2022 1:00 pm
I love your column and look forward to it every morning. Quite frankly, your humor as well! You can certainly find humor in everyday happenings, as it should be. If not, we would all go crazy, Or Crazier in this world.
You can most assuredly bet, the “haters” are the same in every their everyday life and just want to project their negativity onto everyone else. As this writer stated “that you are a greasy, disgusting, faux-deep-thinking, chauvinistic pig…” That is the words coming out of His mouth. And like my Granny always said, words spoken from your heart are actually how you feel. So he is obviously that person.
So, Please Keep writing, with your lovely wit and humor and definitely keep spreading LOVE!
edward childs - April 11, 2022 1:01 pm
Bless you, Sean
dapeek43 - April 11, 2022 1:01 pm
Sean please keep writing! We have plenty of haters in this world. We need people like you who can put a smile on our faces and tears in our eyes! You see the good that is all around and we need to see that good! You make my day start with a smile! My own daughter hates me right now so I need all the love I can get! KEEP ON WRITING!💕
Susan Marler - April 11, 2022 1:04 pm
The haters hate us all. I post on FB from time to time and especially when I like a post or pic. Then some idiot adds their 2 cents to tell me how wrong I am. Too much time on their hands? Particularly bad hair day? I don’t know, it makes no sense. If I control the post I delete them, otherwise I ignore. Keep on writing. There are those of us who look forward each morning to read your posts because you make us all think, smile and start our day just right. And I want Janie’s ice cream recipe! Thanks Mr Dietrick
Anita Bosley - April 11, 2022 1:04 pm
Sean, the reason they ‘hate’ is because you are such a great writer. Your wonderful stories make their miserable lives even worse. Don’t you see that that is the point? You write so well and cleverly that it kills them. Every ‘hate’ message tells you how successful you are and what a great writer you really are.
Ronbo - April 11, 2022 1:06 pm
Keep on writing and let the nuts go to Michigan. Ronbo
Cynthia - April 11, 2022 1:07 pm
I agree with all the support here. You write with voice. I read you first every morning before I check the rest of my e-mail. That starts my day off on a positive note. So thank you!
Heather Miller - April 11, 2022 1:08 pm
Mr. Hater must have had a constipation problem that day, Sean. Maybe someone had rained on his parade so many times he knows only how to spew hate. He reads your column, and probably many other columns, searching for what makes him have an emotion, such as tears or laughter, and when you touch his soul, it triggers the hate button. I’m sure he isn’t from the South. He could have said “well bless his heart,” and you could have seen it as a joke. You are writing because you are a lover of humanity and let us readers know you understand the condition of people, the ones that the rest of us hurriedly bypass. You slow us down to examine our lives and who we touch. You have exposed your life, pain, joys, and we can feel it and respond in an understanding way, sad way, happy way. To say your writing is insensitive is laughable. Yes, I’m certain his system was just backed up, maybe for years! I’m old enough to be your grandmother, and I say let ‘em hate. There are a trillion more lovers than haters, and I’m one of them. Keep writing, and then write some more, and some more. I still wish you and Jamie had moved to Mobile, however, Birmingham still keeps you in our beautiful state. Bless your heart…for real!!
Susan Marler - April 11, 2022 1:08 pm
The haters hate us all. I post on FB from time to time and especially when I like a post or pic. Then some idiot adds their 2 cents to tell me how wrong I am. Too much time on their hands? Particularly bad hair day? I don’t know, it makes no sense. If I control the post I delete them, otherwise I ignore. Keep on writing. There are those of us who look forward each morning to read your posts because you make us all think, smile and start our day
just right. And I want Jamie’s ice cream recipe! Thanks Mr Dietrick.
Ella Herlihy - April 11, 2022 1:09 pm
NEVER STOP!! You inspire, uplift, encourage. You help us all remember that regular people are the real heroes. You turn the humdrum of every day life into beauty with your words and insights. Many of us rely on your vision for how we can all love each other a little better. 💗
Michelle Speier - April 11, 2022 1:10 pm
I don’t know how old your kids are or if you have kids but I use to say stuff to my kids knowing they would hate me. But I had to say those things because I knew it would save their life one day.
It was worth the sacrifice.
I read your column/ blog to my husband who is from Michigan ( west on the lake, very beautiful) and I say “ that was my life in the South. It was fabulous. “ He says “ that guy can write!”
Life saved.
John of the North - April 11, 2022 1:11 pm
When a bright light shines on haters in their dark place, it must be very painful for them, and some react by sharing their pain with others. Let us pray the light extinguishes their darkness. Sean, until then, keep the light turned on and bright.
Sheila Gross - April 11, 2022 1:13 pm
Dear Sean,
Being that I’m from Alabama and now live in Georgia, it’s refreshing to hear your stories on my home state. Your stories bring me back to the Alabama in which I grew up. It’s great to know the people haven’t changed in all those years and there are still people that follow the “Good Book”. Keep up the good work with your jocular attitude and pray for the haters.
Gladtobealive - April 11, 2022 1:15 pm
Some people just love to hate and spread misery. You almost feel sorry for them but then remember it’s their choice. I choose to not listen or participate in their self destruction. I tend to put aside my emotional first reactions and let the analytical side take over. Usual conclusion, they aren’t worth the effort. It’s almost as if they are saying, “What do you think of me?” And, your response, “I don’t.” Just kills them! So Sean, stay on the sunny side where the majority of us choose to reside!
Lonnie Brandon - April 11, 2022 2:44 pm
Dear Mr. Dietrich (Dietrik),
No, you are not Sinclair Lewis, the first American to win a Nobel Prize for Literature “which was awarded ‘for his vigorous and graphic art of description and his ability to create, with wit and humor, new types of characters.'” ( I would give credit to Wikipedia for that quote, but frankly, I don’t know how.)
Sometimes, I laugh at your writing and, sometimes, I get teary. I don’t read your article everyday. I have questioned your style and watched it (my opinion only) progress. I read as you try to make sense and understand our world, while giving encouragement to people who are searching for it. Often, I read your stories and compare them to events in my own life, hence the laughter and tears. I, like you, question why anyone who doesn’t appreciate it continues to read your column/blog/article, whatever it is.
I am not qualified to declare that you are “a Writer.” A layman’s guess is that with 13 or so published books, you are. But, most importantly, you write. I read. So do many others.
Not a hater.
Regards,
Lonnie
Duke Hudson - April 11, 2022 1:19 pm
I was turned onto your blog by a buddy of mine last September. Since then I have read almost every blog, i still have a few in my in box that i have not read yet, and your first book. i find at the end of every blog i am either smiling laughing or have tears in my eyes. keep going Sean, yours is a great story.
Mary M Smith - April 11, 2022 1:23 pm
Sean,
Please do not listen to the haters!! You have encouraged this NC/Alabama girl to be more of a lover! My husband and I LOVE your writing and it’s one of the first things we do every day! So, take these words with you today, please: Encourager, Brilliant Word-Smith, Bringer-of-Stories to Life, Compassionate, People Lover, Funny, Life Observer, Teacher, Faithful, Dog Lover, Wife Lover…
Is that enough to overcome the “stoopid “ haters??
Keep on keeping on!
Mary Smith (and yes, I am a real person, not a robot🤪)
Joanne Miller - April 11, 2022 1:28 pm
My husband and I are both writers and he has a huge online audience. Yes, he gets hate mail too. It used to upset me to the point of tears till I finally accepted the fact that there are haters everywhere. If you are a public figure in any capacity, you will have a third of the population love you, a third who hate you and a third who are apathetic. At least that is what we have been told. I agree with your assessment that the hater could spend his/her time more productively by just unsubscribing and doing something positive. Keep writing as you write, Sean. You are the reality of American culture and you inspire me to be a better, and more humorous, writer!
Nana - April 11, 2022 1:29 pm
Love always wins.
Curious: I wonder how many “likes” the professor has ever received?
Maggie Priestaf - April 11, 2022 1:31 pm
Don’t you dare stop! As Hagrid said to Hermione, “Don’t you think on it…”
Marilyn - April 11, 2022 1:35 pm
I happen to LOVE your ridiculous, insensitive attempts at humor! Keep on writing just as you have been as there are more of us who like and appreciate you than there are who can’t stand to read your column, blog, whatever – but for some strange reason keep doing so.
Wishing you, Jamie and your dogs, a Blessed Easter in your new home.
TERRY KOEHN - April 11, 2022 1:38 pm
It occurs to me, it’s easier to scribe consummeruditious dissertumentaries with brontosaurial words no one knows if you made up or not (And surely someone so brilliant wouldn’t, right?) than it is to write simply, shoot straight, and hit a nerve. All of which is to say, keep up the good work, Mr. Deetrick….er Sean.
Nancy Harger - April 11, 2022 1:44 pm
I don’t know you, I have never met you, I will probably never meet you; but, I like you. You make me smile and I dearly love to smile.
Glenda Busby-Fowler Hinkle - April 11, 2022 1:46 pm
Dear Mr. Dietrik (lol)…..I am a 75 & 1/2 year old woman with macular degeneration, so I don’t know how much longer I will be able to read your column. While I can still read, I would like to tell you that your columns are the “LIGHT of my DAY” and I look forward to reading each and every one of them. My world would be much more empty without your daily writings. I just thought you’d like to know that, in MY world, you make a HUGE difference. Maybe you and I both have warped senses of humor, I don’t know, but if that is the case, I wouldn’t want you to change a thing! Much Love to you.
Helen De Prima - April 11, 2022 1:52 pm
As long as you realize how many burdens you make more tolerable, how many smiles you deliver every day. The haters provide contrasting darkness to accentuate your light.
Cheryl C Hill - April 11, 2022 1:55 pm
Sean, people write negative messages like those because it makes them feel good to put someone down. They can’t tell their boss what they think, or their customers, or their spouses without having to deal with the consequences. So they lash out at you because there are no consequences to them for it. It truly isn’t about YOU. They just need to dump their negativity on someone, and since you’re a writer they’re going to dump it on your writing. Otherwise they just wouldn’t read your work and certainly wouldn’t take the time to comment on it. It’s sad, and says far more about them than it says about you or your writing. Please know that you have a LOT of fans (like me!) who look forward to seeing your offerings every day. So, consider this message to be Fan Mail. I’m sorry I’ve not written before about how much I love your writing!!!
Fran - April 11, 2022 1:58 pm
Sean, if only I could see or take the time to see, the small, insignificant things about people, situations, churches, so many things, I would be a rich person. You’re a special person with much talent and you have it where it counts….the heart!! I look forward to your visit to Mentone, Al.!!!
,
Sarah Dyess - April 11, 2022 1:58 pm
Great positive comments, well said ~ I will add that you promote a type of thinking that promotes empathy, kindness, compassion ~ things sadly lacking in our society today, even from SOME so-called religious folks! Your posts remind us to look for the good in humanity, even when it seems that hate and evil are winning!
Helene Mewborn - April 11, 2022 2:10 pm
Sean, your last sentence in this article reveals that you are wise!!! “ Haters” are not! They just think they are!
Keep your positive thoughts flowing!
Helen Lane - April 11, 2022 2:11 pm
Dear Mr. Dietrik
I’m singing in the choir today your praises along with all these other comments. A friend sent me your blog one day and it forever changed me. I too have shared your writing with tons of people over the year. I’ve been following your blog and have read several of your books. I hope one day to be able to meet you at one of your shows.
People who are haters do so to make themselves feel better about themselves. They get to feel superior because they are better than someone else. But sadly they are not better just more miserable. I too would suggest you take your mail to someone that could read it before you so they could just go ahead and throw that negative stuff where it belongs. Keep on making us laugh, cry, remember with a smile, be encouraged that they are still good people in the world and that one act of kindness goes a long long way.
Ruth Mitchell - April 11, 2022 2:13 pm
Jesus was crucified, and He was perfect. He did what He came to do, and you, Sean, are doing exactly what you are here to do, and you do it so well. Those haters “know not what they do.” They are sad, unhappy people trying to tear others down. They will never reach the rung of the ladder you’re on. Hang on! Don’t allow them to ever bring you down. So many of us make it through our days because of your words.
Betsey - April 11, 2022 2:14 pm
“You don’t have to be great. You don’t even have to be good. You have only one job in this world, and that is to love what you love.
So start with yourself.”
I’m sending your own words back to you! I’m one of the lovers of your blog. I used a paraphrase of these words when I did seven 20 minute sessions at Art Day Friday in an elementary school. I talked about quilting as an art, but encouraged students to love themselves whatever they do. (Of course I gave you credit!) Then I read word for word your piece about Latino women Sunday morning to a college Sunday School class.
Please keep it up. You make the world a better place.
Edith Reed - April 11, 2022 2:24 pm
I was going to leave a comment of my own but I love yours. I love reading Sean’s posts. They are right up there with a good daily meditation. Keep it up Sean. Haters are reflecting how they feel about themselves. Maybe someday they’ll read your column and start to feel a little bit better.
Melanie Johnston Levy - April 11, 2022 2:24 pm
Please, please, PLEASE don’t stop writing!!! If I could convey the happiness and joy you have given me over these past months and years since the pandemic (and before) you would write 4 times as much! And I speak for LOTS of people so just print this out and stick it in your wallet. And know if/when you ever get to Ruston (n. La) I’ll be at the head of the line!
Love, M3 (mel, mom, mimi)
melissa - April 11, 2022 2:24 pm
These haters must not be from the South! I enjoy your writing very much!
Ken Vining - April 11, 2022 2:26 pm
Mr. Detrick,
Hey my name is Vining – I’ve been called Vinning, Vinings, Vinngs and my favorite, when this skinny boneheaded 2LT showed up at 1st Battalion 72d Armor in Camp Casey Korea, 1LT Viking. I was henceforth known as Leif (as in Erikson.) Anyway. I apologize for my fellow humans who seem to firmly believe that their negativity actually means anything more than the few trillion electrons moved about in the poor beings’ computer.
I’m a 63 year old combat helicopter pilot veteran. Along with millions of our other brothers/sisters from other mothers, I too am indebted to Andy for a portion of my upbringing. I’m also indebted to Ernest Borgnine, Tim Conway, Joe Flynn, Ken Berry, George Lindsey, John Wayne, Lucille Ball, Joan Blondell, Jim Nabors and too many others to list. Some of those people helped me with my own life in the early days and now.
I stumbled across your blog in April 2018 in the waiting room while my wife was in emergency brain surgery. We read your written word in electronic and dried and ink form every day. My wife went to receive her well deserved eternal reward on 5 November 2019. I’m still reading your words. I’m still a fan.
I know what it is to lose your self confidence; especially in today’s self serving catastrophe seeking media. You are a remarkable man with a remarkable wife. You stand tall in spite of fierce criticism. Geez, some people just seem to have the M-E-A-N genetic strain. You prefer to accept the negative criticism with the same humility as you accept the positive word. That is courage.
My wife taught me:
taught me:
Love deserves to be high quality, so Love well.
Love is worthy of time, so Love long.
Love is part of Eternity, so Love always.
Love is hard, so Love through clenched teeth.
Love is worth repetition, so Never Ever stop.
Now repeat Every Sweet Second Together.
Have a great week.
Jennie McCartney - April 12, 2022 12:07 am
Mr Vining, I am so sorry for your loss. 🤗🙏🏻🤗 I will keep you and your wife in my prayers.
Glenn - April 11, 2022 2:32 pm
Just assume those come from Russian hackers, not real people….because real people or at least real people that matter, wouldn’t write such venom.
David Jones - April 11, 2022 2:34 pm
I started to comment, then stopped, and then came back. Sean, you know the answer already but I think it’s worth reinforcing. Some of us are born truly fortunate. Wealthy families, loving parents, safe places to live. Others, not so much. Picture the innocent children in Ukraine right now. And sadly, some of those who consider themselves not as fortunate as they “should be”, not recognized or appreciated, not easily wealthy, etc., think it’s appropriate to push others down in a curious attempt to improve their own standing. Others, thankfully like you Sean, put their effort into picking others up. Thanks for all that you do, and know that we love you, too.
Karla Meier - April 11, 2022 2:36 pm
I actually save your articles in a folder on my laptop and I have shared several with people whom I feel need something to keep them going. Your words say what I feel but cannot say. People who don’t like your writing probably don’t like much of anything in life.
My one southern aunt used to say “God bless your heart” to mean or disrespectful people. She was praying that God would bless them and take out the nastiness. My cousin told me it was her southern way of giving the middle finger.
Keep writing – and to the haters – God bless their hearts!
Gordon - April 11, 2022 2:40 pm
I’m a lover, Sean. I love you; I love your blogs; I love your stories; I love your novels; I love your live shows. Thank you for loving us all and giving to us a part of you. Did I say I love you?
Anne - April 11, 2022 2:42 pm
Well, Sean, Jesus was a pretty good guy and look what happened to him. I mean, there will always be people with twisted angry souls who need to feel dominant by hurting others, especially others who are loved. But that is their issue, not yours. Remember: just because someone hands you a manure sandwich, you do not have to pop it into hour mouth! Love ya, Sean.
Donna Florio - April 11, 2022 2:43 pm
As another commented noted, Mark Twain likely would have been excoriated on social media had it existed in his day. But Brian used the perfect word to describe you, Sean—authentic. Your voice is honest, and you touch people’s hearts. To quote that great modern-day poet, Taylor Swift (for whom I actually have great regard), “Haters gonna hate hate hate hate hate…I’m just gonna shake it off!” Keep on shakin’ and speaking your truth, Sean. We’ve got your back.
BEX - April 11, 2022 2:45 pm
Sean, Haters are so unhappy with themselves that they need to spread it around! You are an excellent writer! Period! And, like anything that people hate, THEY control whether they read it, watch it, or listen to it! So, haters actually are bringing their unhappiness onto themselves! Your answers are perfect to irritate them because you DO NOT take them seriously and they can’t bring you down to their level of pettiness! ‘Nuff said! God bless!
Sandra - April 11, 2022 2:48 pm
Really sad. Love your writing, love your style. Haters gonna hate, because they are hateful inside.
Anne Arthur - April 11, 2022 2:49 pm
And trust me, Sean, the immense crowd of followers who not only like but LOVE your writing is by far exceeding those few stupid, humorless and self-blown-up idiots who assume some misplaced “right” to judge you.
Keep writing, my friend, and know that we take great joy in reading your thoughts, including your funny, heart-felt humor in even the saddest of stories. You are unique and a gift to humanity. Be blessed.
Marilyn - April 11, 2022 2:53 pm
Vengeance is mine, I will repay, saith the Lord. Just be like a bird, hum a little but don’t say a word.
While it appears haters get the best of others, inside they’re miserable, jealous and screaming for love!
Renea - April 14, 2022 2:11 am
guys a goober! Don’t believe what he says! I bet he is a miserable human being!
JonDragonfly - April 11, 2022 2:54 pm
Where can I get a haircut for $3 ??
Lori aka Da Queen aka her Majesty - April 11, 2022 2:59 pm
Mr Dietrek… the haters of your writing can, to quote that great southern philosopher Flo from the sitcom Alice, KISS MY GRITS!!
Donna Mess - April 11, 2022 3:03 pm
Those haters are just jealous of how special you are!
Alease - April 11, 2022 3:04 pm
“Hurt people, hurt people.” Keep on keeping on Sean.
Judy - April 11, 2022 3:11 pm
Keep up the good work. You are never going to please everyone.
Martha Barnes - April 11, 2022 3:14 pm
I love your daily writings. I make copies of most of them so I can go back and read them again or share with someone who is having a bad day. You are an inspiration, and you don’t realize how many people you help and influence each day. I have always believed people who put others down have a feeling of inferiority, so let it go. I taught middle school English and Creative Writing for 38 years and mentored teachers for 8 more. You are so creative and down to earth, and that’s what we need. Never quit writing.
Beryl - April 11, 2022 3:14 pm
Dearest Sean, haters hate because it is a reflection of themselves. And this is a common thread in humanity. We suffer the opinions of others but don’t see the necessity of forming an opinion of ourselves that nurtures OUR OWN DEVINE BEING. The underlying base emotion is F.E.A.R. To borrow an acronym from A.A., false experience appearing real. The falseness or the realness is a matter of choice. In his book, Courage Is Calling by Ryan Holiday, he tells us that it is the coward’s choice to blame others for their discontent. Courage comes when we decide to choose a different course of action. No one can live our lives for us. We must do it ourselves. I could wax eloquently for several pages, because I KNOW I CAN. I invite your constructive critique of my words. I too, am a writer and these here words might be more better if you gave me some of your wizdum. Herstory, Beryl
Fleming Straughan - April 11, 2022 3:18 pm
Sean
Keep writing
Some days you bring tears and
Some days you bring messages of Hope and joy.
Most every day it’s worth sharing with my friends
And some day you may even make a difference in a “hater’s” heart.
GodBless
JACKIE LEON DARNELL - April 11, 2022 3:18 pm
Nice one as always. I sorta like the lovers best, 😉
sharmenoswald - April 11, 2022 3:19 pm
Sean, whether or not you realize it your writing is powerful in a simplistic way. Frankly, I think most of us in this world are just plain ole’ folk who greatly benefit from this type of writing and specifically from your writing. Your writing achieves the best that good writing can because it comes full circle, wraps up the main point and keeps the main point just that. Your writing is clear, succinct (by the way I had to look up “succinct” because I kept leaving out the third “c”) and circular. It doesn’t get any better than that. Keep writing exactly the way you are writing. Your writing embodies voice in writing, no small feat to achieve which comes from much practice. Sharmen
Arelene Mack - April 11, 2022 3:20 pm
Dear Sean – I write professionally and I still enjoy all your articles, especially the observations and comments on the Southern way of looking at things. Having children and grandchildren in the far west and midwestern areas of the U.S. makes me appreciate how very differently Southerners often approach life. Your musings and memories often take me back to my childhood and growing up years. Keep writing. There are more Lovers than Haters of your work.
Mike Greene - April 11, 2022 3:23 pm
Well my friend you just keep writing! If you reach just one person with your words that might help their life you have done your job!
CHARALEEN WRIGHT - April 11, 2022 3:25 pm
❤
Kathy Smith - April 11, 2022 3:32 pm
Sean, I look forward to reading your column every morning! It is such an uplifting way to start my day. You are a very talented writer. I feel like I am right there with you when you let us read a small piece of your life, be it past or present! I can weep, laugh out loud or get that warm fuzzy feeling in my heart when I read your column. You help me remember to see people and take time to listen to their story, if they feel like sharing. Sometimes I need to be reminded of that. Don’t stop writing as you are too gifted to not share your talent with all of us! Keep on sharing, Sean! We all love you!
Patricia Gibson - April 11, 2022 3:35 pm
Sean, I know it isn’t easy but try to pity these people. You give so much joy to thousands and that is your gift. You make excellent points in your writing today. This holds true of Facebook and other blogs etc. No one forces you to read them and why do negative people think their comments are so valuable. I pity these folks as they can’t possibly have much joy in their lives. Love you, Sean ❤️❤️❤️❤️
DWIGHT TAYLOR - April 11, 2022 3:37 pm
Please keep up the good work. You reach out and touch the majority of us with humor (very Southern) and wit. Wisdom and common sense comes through as well. Haters are gonna hate. Tell them to talk to the hand …
Mike Rieley - April 11, 2022 3:44 pm
I’ve been a faithful reader and evangelical, recommending you to friends. Your columns often create a smile, sometimes a tear. Write on!
Ellouise Pennington - April 11, 2022 3:46 pm
Like you, I wonder why anyone does something so distasteful as reading something they “know” is going to be “awful”. Your article is my morning devotional. After I wake up and thank God for another wonderful night’s sleep, I find my phone and read your article/column/daily wisdom. Only after that do I tackle Wordle. I’m so sorry for crumpets. They must be the saddest people ever
Susie 9 - April 11, 2022 3:48 pm
Sean, after reading about the hate mail you get I want you to remember something. Some people (mostly the people who claim to “hate” you or your writings) are miserable people to start with. They see God’s Light in you and they hate the Light. It’s really more about hating the Light of God inside you than you yourself. That’s what a friend told me about myself and it made people’s negative opinions about me make more sense and caused me to have compassion towards those miserable, unhappy, negative people. You and Jamie are beautiful, loving, positive, talented people. Never forget the shining light you are in so many people’s lives. More people love you than hate you.
Sincerely and with love,
Susie Dove 😊
Christina - April 11, 2022 3:51 pm
Let all the love here stick more with you Mr Dietrik!
Steven from Wyo - April 11, 2022 4:03 pm
“Haters” have hate on one side of their knuckles and love on the other set of knuckles. Unfortunately few are ambidextrous.
Brooxie Keary - April 11, 2022 4:04 pm
Love you, Mr. Sean . . . and you write because you throw a life-line to many of us each day!
alisonbaird765 - April 11, 2022 4:14 pm
Wow! I hope you feel the love in this message because I don’t want to live in a world without writers like you!
Jewel - April 11, 2022 4:22 pm
Just keep giving them funny answers. It will blow their minds
Nancy Carnahan - April 11, 2022 4:23 pm
Here’s another cliche: When you point a finger at someone, you have four more pointed at yourself. I must read your column every morning. I also forward it to friends. I love reading the comments.
suzi - April 11, 2022 4:26 pm
I believe your fan base is generally happy, optimistic and caring, keep on writing for us Sean, let the haters watch fox news for their fix of the day.
Kathy - April 11, 2022 4:28 pm
I think that being a hater is very similar to being a sugar addict. Once you start ingesting it, it’s hard to stop because some how in a sick and unhealthy way it makes you feel better for a minute.
I have learned that people that only feel superior by hurting the feelings of someone else are people that are hurting themselves most of the time.
So my philosophy is ..
IF YOU DON’T LIKE MY PEACHES..
DON’T SHAKE MY TREE !!
Bill in Tennessee - April 11, 2022 7:26 pm
I had to laugh at that last item, because it’s part of a song I’ve frequently sung and performed called “Sitting On Top of the World.” That line goes, “If you don’t like my peaches, don’t shake my tree, keep outta my orchard, leave my peaches be, Now she’s gong, and I don’t worry, Cause I’m sitting on top of the world.” It’s an old song going back to the early part of the 20th Century out of Appalachia somewhere. I think Doc Watson used to sing it when he was performing.
Jim Sr Sturges - April 11, 2022 4:28 pm
For every piece of hate mail sent your way, your daily work makes 24.33 (scientifically verified) of us spontaneously generate broad smiles that help the day go past more smoothly. Thanks, Mr D.
elizabethroosje - April 11, 2022 4:31 pm
Sean Your blog is one of the highlights of my day EVERY day. I have read 3 of your books so far and LOVED all 3. You are making a profound difference in people’s lives including children. I am so sorry for the bitter haters. I am so glad you are not one. Praying for you and Jamie every day ❤🙏🕯
Paul - April 11, 2022 4:51 pm
I like your blog! I appreciate good humor and your type of folksy is right down my alley. I enjoy reading your post every morning while I crunch my Cheerios and sip my V8. Keep up your good work and keep encouraging people to be kinder to oneanother. Continue to love rather than hate and have a blessed day!
Paul of Fresno
Irma - April 11, 2022 4:51 pm
Sean, I have just read every single comment on this article. WOW! You are definitely loved, and my husband and I are riding your train too! Every day one of us will say to the other, “Have you read Sean yet?” You are my favorite because you are so real. Your thoughts and feelings belong to all of us, therefore we can easily relate to what you’re saying. We love you and your writing. Please don’t ever quit.
Just remember this:
People don’t treat you the way they do because of who you are; they treat you that way because of who THEY are!
Patricia Schmaltz - April 11, 2022 5:01 pm
Hi there Sean. I read your posts every day. LOVE them. What I’ve found is that when someone is negative.. I should (and do) feel sorry for them. Their negatively is truly aimed at themselves, but they want to feel better, so they point it at someone else. Like my Mom used to say, be like water off a duck’s back. Don’t let it get to you.
BTW… I have a Doctorate in Management and Org Leadership.. been published multiple times over in commercial publications.. and I LOVE the way you write. Not saying I’m a mucky-muck.. but your words reach me every time. Please keep it up.
Thank you. – Patricia
Linda Moon - April 11, 2022 5:09 pm
I won’t send you any negative email, and I’ll patiently wait for “See all comments” so I can read all 2.3 or more of them. I’m very sorry you’ve received hurtful correspondence. And, yes, Sean Dietrick, we lovers of your written words will keep reading You and Life Itself in them. So, what’s your circulation now?
Jenny Young - April 11, 2022 5:24 pm
So there are university professors reading your writing…& you aren’t even having to pay them to critique you! Alot of people with student debt would be pretty happy to figure out how to do that!?
Tom Wallin - April 11, 2022 5:28 pm
Right on, Mister Dietrik.
From one of yor bigest fanz.
Your fiend, Tom
Angie - April 11, 2022 5:28 pm
I love your writing & read your blog every day. Please don’t ever stop writing!!! By the way my husband & I really enjoyed your show in Panama City a couple weeks ago..🥰
Becky+Souders - April 11, 2022 5:54 pm
Holy cow, Sean Dietrich! Look at all these good words for you! Unlike Mel, I don’t save your posts, but I read them at the start of my day (sometimes that’s noon,) because you leave us readers with good thoughts for the day! Thanks.
Becki - April 11, 2022 5:58 pm
It’s, ok, something just happened to my daughters in their peer group, that was disappointing, and disrespectful. It made them mad, want to give up, they were loosing their focus on the lives, for the moment. So I reminded them, that, what other people do, is their deal, their rooster, will go to roost in their barn, keep our focus on what their goals are in life, to remember that I love them, to pray for the ones that were involved, let it roll off their backs, they’ll b better for it in the end. God sees and understands what it was like, he ll either resolve it, remove us, or give us the Grace to go through it.
So you too, keep on writing your inspirations. I enjoy reading your blog, Becki
Kelley Lyons - April 11, 2022 6:13 pm
I’m so sorry some people are so miserable that their only joy is to rain misery on others. Keep writing for those of us who gain strength, compassion, acceptance, and understanding through your written words. And, for the poor haters… Bless Their Little Hearts.
Anne Riemer - April 11, 2022 6:25 pm
Dear Sean,
I know you know this but it’s true what therapists say, “hurt people hurt people“. The haters are expressing something sad and ugly that’s inside of them. For sure it hurts, I’m really sad that happened to you, and I sure hope you don’t stop writing because for any every one of them there must be at least thousands of people who really love and need the lift your columns give us as we go through our day. Say a little prayer for those people and hand it over to God, He loves their prickly souls, He knows exactly how to handle it and what will work for each of those individual people to help them out of this bad place they’re in.
I have a special folder for your columns that bring tears to my eyes and it’s bursting at the seams! I appreciate you so much Sean, you take my advice. Whenever you think of their horrible words, say a prayer for them that God will help them because I can only imagine how bad they are to the people close to them and how much more they have to put up with.
One of your biggest fans,
Anne
Groton Massachusetts
Steven McAfee - April 11, 2022 6:29 pm
I have never understood hate mail, or hate speech for that matter. I just want to say how much my wife and I love your column and look forward to reading it. You are a genuine voice espousing the kind of values I grew up on and seldom see anywhere in today’s world – most especially in the new, on social media, or in political office. Thank you. You give me hope.
davidpbfeder - April 11, 2022 6:44 pm
Many nuggets of insight in this editorial today. First and foremost, I feel it necessary to say that you are absolutely correct — you are no Hemingway. I personally think you are a better writer than Ernest was. And I say that from a position of someone who has read everything by and about Hemingway, studied his writing in university, and knew his son and granddaughter. (If you ever ask, I’ll tell you the specific reasons why I think you surpass him in writing skill.) Next, you’re right that one meathead being ugly can shade an entire day. But that’s what they want, so the second you let go of their cheap attempts to elevate their tiny minds and tenuous egos at your expense that afterburn will dissipate. (And by the way, few people on Earth have egos more tenuous than college professors.) Now let’s talk intellect. Nope; not letting you get away with that bit of false modesty! You’re extremely bright and I think you know it. Embracing it does not mean showing off. I know we Southerners were discouraged from “puttin’ on airs,” but these days, a high IQ is nothing to be ashamed of.
In short, you have it right: There’s something seriously dishonest about people who claim to hate your writing and then spend such an extraordinary amount of time telling you about it. If I taste something nasty, I spit it out right away, I don’t keep working it over in my taste buds ad nauseum while relishing the unpleasantness it causes. Nope; their mouths say “hate” but their actions say they are either jealous because they are college professors who cannot write one tenth as well as you can, or whatever you wrote hit them personally in the solar plexus and caused them embarrassment because it was so accurate.
Be you. You are respected, honored, and loved for what you bring us. Don’t let anyone ruin — that not only for you but for your readers.
Big hug
Mary Louise Griffin - April 11, 2022 6:51 pm
TOTALLY got that right!!!! Us LOVERS gon Love!!! Those haters have got nothing else. They try to make themselves feel good by making others feel bad. Isn’t that such a sad way to live? It makes me
wonder about their lives. Were they raised or did they just get older? What awful thing caused this hate and need to spread it? You see, Sean, none of it is about you or what you write. Clearly, it’s more about them. It speaks volumes about them. You keep writing as much for you as for us. We ‘preciate it!!
Carol Watkins - April 11, 2022 7:03 pm
Some folks are just asshats. Don’t let them spoil even a minute of your day and don’t stop writing! Your work lifts my spirits.
Slimpicker - April 11, 2022 7:04 pm
Sean, it would appear by the extra amount of positive comments regarding today’s story, that you have an army that has your back. Keep up the great work!
Sharon Chewning - April 11, 2022 7:12 pm
Sean… I read this morning on Holy Spirit TV where someone posted….God is opening doors for you that no man, no haters, no devil can shut!! … It seemed so perfect for your blog this morning. Keep up your beautiful writings… Sharon in Virginia
Ann Syfert - April 11, 2022 7:20 pm
Sean, It took me about an hour to read all of the wonderful comments here. That ought to tell you something.. The number of your friends that took the time to let you know that you are loved are many. We love you, Sean, and would be devastated if we woke up one day and there was no column in our in-box. I hope you take the time to read all of them, too. You should feel like you won the lottery, if you do..
Bill in Tennessee - April 11, 2022 7:22 pm
Sean, don’t worry about those people, or as I sneeringly refer to them, “THOSE people.” The emphasis has to be on “THOSE” and uttered with a withering disdain, since that is all the attention they deserve. I once had an aunt, long gone to her great reward now, who had risen above her humble origins and felt that she was American Gothic Southern “aristocracy.” One of her favorite sayings was, “You are known by the company you avoid.” Yeah, she was a snoot, but a dear heart in reality.
But I also got the same kind of positive and negative feedback (a ratio of about 90% v 10% respectively) and I was a simple technical writer. I wrote densely packed technical and procedural manuals, documents about government regulations, how particular nuclear sites had to be cleaned up an restored to public use, and so on, nothing mind you that remotely approached “literature for the ages,” and I still got complaints.
Complaints about fonts and typesets (although these were dictated by a style guide I had to use), documents written in sterile prose that had no “joie de vivre” (we’re talking government documents and manuals here), in the third person (per the style guide), and even overuse of acronyms, of all things!! The use of acronyms is carefully laid out in the style guide I was bound by, but some folks could not remember what all the acronyms meant without using the list at the front, so they took it out on little old me, the technical writer.
The point is, no matter what you do, somebody somewhere is having a bad day, or a bad year, or their spouse has just walked out the door for SOME ODD REASON, or they received some bad news, or they just are mean people at heart, and decide to take it out on anyone who crosses their paths.
So like my dear aunt used to tell me, I avoid these people and their missives and their “constructive criticism” and outright meanness, because I’m known by the company I avoid. It makes life ever so much easier.
Joann - April 11, 2022 7:47 pm
I know it doesn’t do any good to remind you to ignore the haters, because I react the same way to unjust (IMO) criticism, but do remember that there are MANY more people who love to read your columns. I often wonder how you can be so optimistic and look on the bright side despite all the horror and hatred in this world, but I’m so glad you do. You lift me up many days out of my own funk, so just continue doing what you do.
Dee Thompson - April 11, 2022 7:53 pm
Judging by the number of comments here, Sean, I’d say you need to try to forget about the Hater because 99% of your readers adore you. Try to focus on that. I was terminated from a job a while back by a manager who said I was “too much trouble and asked too many questions” — in other words, she felt threatened by me. Hurt my feelings for a couple of days, then I went online and looked up reviews of the company and many of them mentioned what a horrible tyrant she is — so her ugly words reflected her, not me. Lesson learned.
Chasity Davis Ritter - April 11, 2022 7:57 pm
Haters gonna hate but I KNOW you have a whole passel of supporters who would be glad to Whip dat a$$ of anyone who made you feel bad about your writing. It’s always one of the bright spots in my day. Some days I can’t wait to open my email and read it right away and some days I save it till I can savor it like a fine meal and enjoy it slowly and still others I save it as a pick me up if the day gets too hard. Too bad we can’t know when it’s hate mail so we can ignore it right away but God didn’t give you red hair and thick skin for nothing!!! You keep right on being you and writing what I love everyday! !
Claudia Kennedy - April 11, 2022 8:13 pm
For the record, I am a published author. So, I get what you mean. Truly! And furthermore, also as a matter of record, I am a college grad (Magna cum Laude) which I think means, “Girl, for a 46 year-old high school dropout with a major in English, you did good.” Having said all this: I’ve read your books, and I am your FAN!
Dorothy Parra Kelly - April 11, 2022 8:32 pm
Sean, I am a 76 year old retired English teacher. I just read your piece about people writing you negative reviews. I love your writing and it always makes my day better. Please do not pay attention to those who write you negative messages. There are enough of us who enjoy your writing every day. Like I would tell all of my students, make the most of every day and do what makes YOU happy. Looking forward to your next “letter to me”.
David S Doom - April 11, 2022 8:50 pm
Reply to haters, “There is never a valid reason to be rude.”
Wadena - April 11, 2022 8:55 pm
It makes me sad that you even think negatively about your writing. There are too many people who love your writing as compared to people who are unhappy with themselves and have to find someone to criticize to make them feel better. Keep up the wonderful work! It makes many peoples day!
Robyn - April 11, 2022 8:56 pm
❤️ you Sean. Keep in keeping on for the rest of us!
Wyndall and Nancy Hutcheson - April 11, 2022 9:06 pm
When you get emails like this, Sean, first however hard it is, just simply disregard them. Second, remind yourself that God loves you, God gave you the ability to see life through your eyes and to very eloquently put it on paper for the world to enjoy, to bring a smile to someone’s face, to send out miles of smiles to people who really need those smiles. And finally, just respond by saying to the naytaker, “just take it up with God…He gave me this ability, and I’m just following His lead.” Then let’s see what kind of response you get. Because if God is on your side, what does it truly in the end mean if you hear from a few naysayers along the way! You are appreciated! Keep looking through the windshield and not the rear-view mirror!
Susan Kennedy - April 11, 2022 9:08 pm
Everyone has already said what I’m thinking so I will just leave it at this:
Please don’t quit. You are loved!!!!
Bkr - April 11, 2022 9:14 pm
Look -the mood I’m in I would love to punch anyone in the face that has the audacity to say anything negative to you. You have given me and a gajillion others countless hours and minutes and seconds of joy so just give me some addresses of people and I will Punch them. It could be fun!
PS I’m really not psycho just in an uber cranky mood
Diane Eaves - April 11, 2022 9:32 pm
Not a Hater!….. I Love You! and most everything you’ve written… actually I can’t think of a story, article that you’ve written that I dislike… I’ve laughed, cried and became really sad reading them. That said keep on for us that adore you ,I will bet we far outnumber the haters…
Donna - April 11, 2022 9:37 pm
I was blessed beyond measure the day I stumbled upon your post. It was the beginning of the pandemic and I was struggling to keep myself motivated to be happy when nursing my patients. And then you happened. I can’t say that I always remember every word you write, but this I know – your work always lifts my spirits and helps me remember just how blessed I am. Your work truly enriches my life. Please consider me a friend and know that many, and I mean MANY, people cherish your style of writing and the wit that is patently Sean of the South.
Susan - April 11, 2022 9:48 pm
Oh my goodness! How can anyone hate your work!!!??? I can’t conceive of people that humorless or soulless. I was at your show in Clayton,NC … and had you sign my books after that. I am still feeling so thankful and so thrilled that I got to go. It’s hard to explain… but what might seem like a little thing to others fills me with such happiness… I am still smiling inside and out. I relate to so many things you write about and I guess I feel like you get “ me”… not many people do, and I am normally labeled quirky or odd…. It took me more than 40 years to embrace those labels and be thankful I am not just like anyone else.
If you ever do make it to little Manteo, you be sure to announce that loud and clear! It would be an honor to climb over Andy’s fence to show you his place… even if I get bit by a dog🤣🤣🤣🤣! Thanks for an awesome evening of entertainment!!!
Susan
Karl Heeter - April 11, 2022 10:08 pm
I for one consider your writing generally to be entertaining sometimes enlightening and sometimes spiritual. I was introduced to your writing by our pastor who would share some of your writing on a fairly regular basis. Then I began to subscribe and did subscribe to your blog. I read it every day sometimes I wonder why I do because it may not mean anything to me. However most days it contains things that I can relate to and humor and occasionally I laugh out loud. Sean you are definitely worth my time to read what you write. I too am a lover not a hater so you have my best and may God bless you.
Suellen - April 11, 2022 10:24 pm
Literally two minutes after I read this I read a meme that said “Accept both compliments and criticism. It takes both sun and rain for a flower to grow.” My advice though is to not let the criticism change you. We love you just the way you are.
Teresa - April 11, 2022 10:29 pm
I started reading your column about nine months ago when a friend introduced me to your writing on Face book. I loved the first article, and I wouldn’t want to miss a single comment of yours! I have laughed out loud, cried, and gotten very emotional over your work. I feel like I have come to know you and Jamie following your joys and sorrows over the past year. You had me rooting for the Braves this past weekend, even though I live 90 miles north of Cincinnati!!You are an excellent storyteller. You can weave your words so that I can understand how you are feeling, and picture the experience as if I were there with you. Please don’t ever stop writing! I am a retired elementary teacher, and I miss the first hand contact of the stories I used to hear from my students. You are a national treasure. Let the comments of a few bounce off, and know there are many of us anticipating your article each day! God Bless you ,and your work, Sean!
Teresa
Jennifer Wilson - April 11, 2022 10:34 pm
I interviewed for a job last Tuesday, Sean. And I was doing really well at convincing myself that I would be happy regardless of the outcome, that I did my best and I was proud of that. I kept telling myself that rejection for this job doesn’t imply that I’m a reject. This worked well for about a week. But in the last half hour I’ve eaten a half of a chicken, two biscuits, 4 chocolate bars, and a whole entire package of cheese. Tomorrow is the day they told me they would make a hiring decision.
I realize you do this every day! I’m not referring to binge eating. You put yourself out there, every day; and each reader decides if they want to hire you…. in a sense. It takes a lot of courage and confidence to know the gift you’re giving is a valuable gift, regardless of whether it is accepted.
Thank you for your gift.
MAM - April 11, 2022 10:34 pm
Sean, I can totally relate. Why must people read what they know they won’t like? I own and run a digital newspaper, and it always amazes me how much time a person can waste by writing in great depth about how they hate a certain columnist or something I wrote. So, really easy, don’t read it! I doubt you would get all the positive comments above, if your writing was bad. You uplift us every day. May God keep you safe ad writing every day!
Iris Stonecipher - April 11, 2022 11:00 pm
Those haters are just jealous!
Juanita - April 11, 2022 11:32 pm
I like your writing, I like the way it makes me laugh, or cry because it touches the places deep inside that lets me know that others feel and understand what I feel and experience. Your writing is schuft and I am so glad that you share it with us.
Ed (Bear) - April 11, 2022 11:41 pm
I love you and your writing. Your writings inspire me to keep trying to write. Thusly, I benefit from reading your work. I learned that word from you so I hope it made you smile. The haters have social issues. They were probably fed a significant amount of hate from someone else and weren’t fed enough positives. Or else they are just plain evil. They would probably never say to your face what they write. I bet most of them give you false contact information. Best thing you can do is listen to the thousands and thousands of folks that love you, admire you and want you to be happy.
Linda Kerr - April 11, 2022 11:52 pm
Sean – You’ll get enough responses to this piece to wallpaper your house, and the house next door as well.
Your writing is also your ministry – everybody has one, although many people trash their purpose: they’re the haters. If someone told you at midnight, how bright and sunny it is, you wouldn’t take that as your reality. Nor, should you embrace sewage from a basically, lost soul. Most importantly, scripture says to, “guard your heart.”I believe you bring more smiles to the Lord than the next ten learned writers. Most writers feed the masses. You feed our spirits. I like your niche. Besides, it’s not crowded.
Randall Kemp - April 12, 2022 12:21 am
I love your writing. You frequently make my day. As far as wondering what the levels of idiocy are while pumping gas at the Shell station and where you rate on on it, here in Oregon many people never even get to experience that level of harm because we are so low on the idiot scale that we are not allowed to pump our own gas. The state requires attendants to pump it and we can get fined if we touch the hose. So take heart, your IQ is well above this Oregonian on the Shell gas pumping idiot scale.
Curran - April 12, 2022 1:24 am
Remember, if you ain’t the lead dog, the view never changes 🙂
Judy - April 12, 2022 1:29 am
You are in big trouble if you stop writing. You start everyday for me with humor,insights and hope. I will track you down and hate you if you even consider quitting.
Deborah Blount - April 12, 2022 1:34 am
I must say, AMEN! There really are some people that seem to only know how to hate. It is our job as lovers to pray for their souls. If each of us pray they have a good, loving day, God will provide them with a positive attitude. Wouldn’t that be perfect? Even if it’s for only one day. Now that puts a smile on my face.
ginger - April 12, 2022 1:44 am
I betcha those haters are the same people who think Joe Biden is a good president. I love you Sean! Keep writing!!
cekey44 - April 12, 2022 2:02 am
The haters can go to Hell, Michigan or elsewhere. Your writing is entertaining. Funny , sometimes tear jerking and an occasional dud. But the only folks that have never written a dud are those that have never written. Keep writing and we’ll keep reading.
Michael - April 12, 2022 2:22 am
Sean, I used to work for a very fine writer and speaker. He said he didn’t let the negative comments “drive his program” but that one might keep him up at night occasionally. As one of the old guys I’d advise you to make a friend of the haters that you can and shred or delete the ones you can’t. Is there someone who could read them for you and sort through them before you waste time and emotional energy on them? it’s true you can learn from some of them. if so, take the criticism and apply it, but if not, move on down the road. Most important, don’t get sidetracked and don’t let anyone (even the positive folks, like all these wonderful people you heard from today!) derail you from your writing, and for Pete’s sake don’t adjust your writing to anyone at all. Be yourself, that’s what makes your writing so special. PS I read “Will the Circle Be Unbroken?” over the last three days and you did a very fine job telling yours and your father’s story. You take care and keep on writing.
Susan Mitchell - April 12, 2022 2:49 am
Forget the haters, I love everything you write!
Melanie - April 12, 2022 2:52 am
Yay! Comment number 201! 😆 There is venomous hatred everywhere, Sean. I feel sorry for people who don’t realize what they are doing or even why they are doing it. My hope for them is that some day the anger , self-hatred and bitterness leaves their soul so they can finally feel free. I love your writing, especially your books, and sure hope I get to see you perform one day.
Carie - April 12, 2022 3:46 am
Please keep writing! There are so many of us lovers out here. If it weren’t weird for a complete starnger to find you in Bham, just to give you a hug and remind you to tune out the haters, I’d drive down from Huntsville to do just that. KEEP WRITING for all of us who enjoy your slice of the South!
Mary Beth Hall - April 12, 2022 4:41 am
Yes sir, the lovers are gonna love! And I and a million other readers are gonna continue to love your writing, and share it with friends and spread it around. As a small-town Northerner, I can relate to most all your writing, and I enjoy 100% of it. And anyone I send it to writes back, and say “Wow, that was a good one! Where did you find that?”
So keep on keeping on, Sean, and never stop being you! Ad astra per aspera.
Rick Clowdus - April 12, 2022 11:31 am
Sean, this is the first time I have commented on your page but please keep writing – we really enjoy your humorous but deeply thought-provoking stories and comments. As a 70 year old southern boy myself, i can identify. Even though I currenty live in Georgia, I grew up in Alabama and tell people I still retain my “Alabama citizenship.”
in reading this particuar column where you speak of “haters,” I was reminded of a story about the old goat man who traveled across the country back in the 50s and 60s with his rickety wagon pulled by goats (you might look up his story online if you aren’t famiiar with him – you would be fascinated). He was nasty, rarely bathed and obviously rather eccentric. He was quite a sight and drew attention most everywhere he went.
Anyway, a story goes something like this: a rather stuffy woman came out to one of his stops one day and started lecturing him about how he needed to quit his foolishness, clean himself up and get his life straightened out.
The old man responded: “Lady, 300 people have come out to see me today. How many people have come out to see you?”
I am not saying you are a nasty old man like the goat man but my point is keep writing. Thousands of people read and enjoy your articles each day. How many read the writings of the “haters?”
Kate - April 12, 2022 12:02 pm
Sean, have you ever noticed that when you write about “haters” you always get an amazing number of responses – all of them positive. Most likely 99.5% of the people who regularly read your column love you. Yep, don’t understand why someone who does not like your column bothers to read it and then tell you how awful you are (You are not) I never read anything to dislike – maybe the English professors are jealous because so many people read your column, and no one pays any attention to them. With one exception all my English professors were easily forgotten. Thank you for loving us enough to spend the time and energy to write for us. Your columns have helped my disposition and lifted my heart on many, many days.
Debbie g - April 12, 2022 12:54 pm
Sean you make ever day of my days better keep up inspiring us !!! Love you and Jamie and love to us all and bless the others hearts 🤔
Maryellen - April 12, 2022 3:04 pm
My friend introduced me to you by posting your daily stories on Facebook; then I subscribed to you, so I get you in two sources. And I pass you on to my husband who doesn’t do fb. A day without you is like a day without wine…and that is a very high compliment! Forget the haters; they do what they do to try to make themselves feel superior…like verbal bullies! You have more people who love you and your humor and incite than not. The next time you’re gassing up, think of those of us who put you up on a pedestal…right up there next to their “save-for-anniversary” bottle of expensive Pinot Noir! 😎
LYLE KOEHN - April 12, 2022 3:35 pm
Stand in the light and be seen as you are!!!
Evelyn - April 12, 2022 5:00 pm
Love abounds. ❤️ As shown in all these comments.
Suzanne - April 12, 2022 5:01 pm
Perhaps the “hater” in question needed some attention or recognition. You may safely say they received both. Through you they have what they so desperately craved. Now they have you to thank you for helping them and it must be galling. 😉
I genuinely enjoy your writing and that is good enough for me.
Lucy - April 12, 2022 6:32 pm
Keep on writing! You make my day better! Thanks.
Susan - April 12, 2022 6:54 pm
Thank you, Sean, for writing something real and human, for being vulnerable and sharing your heart like a friend. I appreciate you. Keep writing for me and others like me!
Alan Wildes - April 12, 2022 6:57 pm
“If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet.” Matthew 10:14
If it’s good enough for Jesus its good enough for you my friend.
Go Braves
rcgrimsh - April 13, 2022 12:48 am
You’re brave, Sean. Heroically brave. Me? I’m a coward. I can’t take that criticism. It would put me in a dark place. I’m glad you can weather it. And I’m glad you write so I can enjoy reading what you put out there and feel a little better about the future of our species. Sorry you have to put up with the haters. Truly sorry. A little bit of me is sorry for them, too. They make choices, and I hope one day they will choose to lift up, not tear down. Maybe that’s what you’re showing them.
Kathy - April 13, 2022 1:15 am
You know darn well that for every negative email and letter, you get 5-10 positive ones. Weigh them accordingly. Or I’ll get my feelings hurt that my positive comment doesn’t outweigh some idiot’s negative one.
Joanne - April 13, 2022 2:27 am
Excellent!! Please keep writing for the “believers” in good!!
Linda Willson - April 13, 2022 9:19 am
The Lovers greatly outnumber the haters so keep on keeping on…you bring much joy to so many! Thank you Mr Dietrik!
Debbie Schmidt - April 13, 2022 11:28 am
You are more than a writer; you are a philosopher. If I had to rank the philosophers/apologists/ writers I most admire the list (in no particular order) would be : C.S. Lewis, Rick Bragg, Mr. Rogers, Winnie the Pooh and you. Your world view is beautiful and much needed.
Lauren Lopez - April 13, 2022 2:40 pm
Thankful for you, Sean! You are such a blessing!
Charli - April 13, 2022 6:18 pm
Dear Mister Dietrik,
Mean people suck. Stay away from them.
Sincerely,
A high school teacher who doles out life advice on the regular.
Don - April 13, 2022 9:38 pm
Dear Mr {Dietrik},
I am a faithful reader of your work ever since I found it on the internet. Someday I hope to put on paper some of my observations in life, as you do. You are very entertaining. I am an amateur flower grower and once bought some Pansey’s. I really think you are a Pansey, because living in the North country of Minnesota, this seemingly delicate flower, was the hardiest flower that I have had the joy of growing so far. As time went on the stems and leaves wilted but the Flower held its own and continued to BLOOM with God’s grace. And what beauty!
Theresa N Collins - April 13, 2022 10:30 pm
Darling Mr. Dietrich, Thank you for your continued writing/blog/stories, etc… I will do my best to give you as much positive reinforcement as possible. I LOVE YOUR WRITING and think you are FABULOUS. Stay true to yourself.
Sending love and hugs
MaryAnn A Dunham - April 14, 2022 12:45 am
Sean, God gave you your desire to write as a gift. He wastes NOTHING. Your life history gave you a perspective that can encourage people who’ve experienced similar tragedies and challenges in their lives. Your overcoming, survival, and the ability to find joy in simple, everyday events are beacons of light and hope into many lives. We need more “lovers” like you to share joy, peace, grace with the world. You can’t force “haters” to change, you can only set an example. You do that VERY WELL. Keep it up!
Beth Sargent - April 14, 2022 2:01 am
Sean, just know that for every negative note/letter/email you get, there about 5,000 others (like me) who don’t usually comment…but love and appreciate your writings!
Jerry - April 14, 2022 2:25 am
Keep writing Sean…”haters” are a small vocal minority. There are many more “lovers” of your writing.
Patrick Morse - April 14, 2022 2:39 am
Mr. D = the Wisconsin state flower is the Wood Violet, so maybe you have some Bucky Badger in you. If you are ever in the Waukesha area, get out the word early. I LOVE your writing – more often that not, it makes my day. Please keep up the GREAT work!
Debora Bettis - April 14, 2022 3:21 am
Whoa, Sean. There were so many comments, I thought I would never reach the spot where I could comment. And comment, I must. Do I sound like Yoda?
Anyway, not gonna dignify the pitiful attempts of others who try to drag you down…nope. What I will do is thank you. Thank you for the words of light, of life, of laughter, and of love, that you give to us. And there have been mornings that I have felt so depressed, so alone, and so overwhelmed…until I read another story by the young man who reaches out, with his words, to tell me that I am loved. We have never met, face to face. But we have met, heart to heart. And you are what we need, in this tired old world. A voice that reminds us that there is someone out there who sees us. We are not forgotten, as long as your words keep pouring out. Thank you, dear Sean. You are loved, and we are grateful.
Becky Wiegers - April 14, 2022 3:49 am
Not gonna speculate on why haters hate, I’m not interested. Not gonna speculate on why you keep writing, either. I’m just going to be grateful that you do. Your essays are a gift I didn’t ask for, didn’t know I needed. However it happened, I found you and my life is better for it. Thank you!
Sue - April 14, 2022 6:01 pm
Keep entertaining us with your column! 👍🥰
Theresa Peterson - April 14, 2022 8:24 pm
Just one word describes your writing….LOVE….love that you feel for the world, and love that the world feels back at you. Please don’t stop writing!You bring so much love and joy to our lives with your writing. I know how they make you feel, but believe me, Haters don’t amount to a “ hill of beans”!
Verna Kays - April 15, 2022 4:53 am
I love it when your column pops up in my email..
I settle down,and read every word….
Your writing speaks directly to my heart..
I “get” you..Its like,I’ve known you forever..and when I’m lonely or having a yucky day,you make me feel better
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Keep writing Sean…and well,just “p**s on the haters…
I really do love ya,
Verna
KellyAnne - April 15, 2022 11:27 am
You’re right. Haters gonna hate. But I digress. We need lots more love in this world. So keep your white hat and rose tinted glasses and keep on writing. Cuz simple truth is, we need you to keep shining your little light in this broken world.
Marcia - April 16, 2022 1:11 pm
I don’t subscribe to many blogs/emails/etc., and most of the ones I do get I fail to get around to reading until the end of the week, at which time I just delete them. Except for yours. I save yours until I have the time to read them. Always worth reading. Thank you!
Pat - April 17, 2022 7:04 pm
Forget, if you can…and I know you can, the haters!. They obviously have nothing else to do.
People who take the time to deliver a “mean blow” are just trying to. Compensate for their lack of love for themselves
Remember all the people who love your stories and rely on reading EVERYDAY
Your the greatest!
Patti M - April 25, 2022 7:41 pm
I love your writing. I try to read it daily, but right now I’m a little behind -I’ll still get to them though. Sometimes you make me laugh, sometimes you make me cry, sometimes you give me a better view of the world and sometimes you give me a beautiful glimpse of how things could/should be. Often I forward your columns to friends or family because that particular column resonated with me and I know they will enjoy it. It’s hard to not take the negative things personally. I know because I used to teach adults and one negative comment stands out far more than 100 positive comments. So let it go if you can. You have many more people who love your stories than those “hate” filled people.
James Bryars - June 14, 2022 8:29 pm
Sean, don’t worry about these folks, they hate everything, shoot they probably hate dogs
Kathy Cross - July 11, 2022 1:44 pm
Absolutely…don’t quite