Jeannie was depressed. She walked into the little back room of the Methodist church. She was giving therapy a try.
She is a mother of four, works part-time, and somehow manages to scrape dinner together every night. She wonders how her mother did it when she was growing up. Her mother was single, overworked, and strong. She never showed a hint of depression.
Depression. That horrible word. How could Jeannie be such a wimp?
But then COVID-19 hit. Followed by unemployment. Followed by more bills. And fear.
She managed to get a new job working at a local hotel cleaning rooms for a pittance. But the world is not the same as it was. And neither is Jeannie. Depression is real.
The Methodist back room was dimly lit, with soft music playing. A little bookshelf. Scented candles. An older woman welcomed Jeannie into a little den she lovingly called the “upper room.”
Methodists call everything the upper room. Even the family dog.
Jeannie sat on a sofa, embarrassed to be there. Therapy does that to newcomers.
It makes some feel ashamed.
But this was not “therapy” in the official sense. The woman was clear about this. This was not a professional consultation. This was just two ladies talking.
So Jeannie told her everything. She told her how difficult it was being a 44-year-old who should have her life together, but didn’t. She told her about the dark days. The thoughts of self harm.
The lady therapist offered no judgments. In fact, since this was not technically a consult the woman simply listened.
When Jeannie finished talking, the older lady took the opportunity to speak. She told Jeannie that depression doesn’t work the way most think. It’s not a devil cloud from the primordial underworld. It’s a medical thing. It’s situational. It’s complicated.
Depression can be just like breaking your foot, or spraining your ankle. So why be humiliated about it?
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